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             CONTENTS                                                                 EDITOR’S NOTE


                                                                                           Tough Talks
       FACES IN THE NEWS  ....................3, 18  HISTORY ............................................ 14
       COMMUNITY UPDATE .......................... 4  ON THE AVE ...................................... 15
       THE GREAT OUTDOORS ....................... 8  COMMUNITY CALENDAR .................... 16  Conversations about end-of-life care are never easy—
       XPERIENCE XSPERO  ......................... 10  FUN AND GAMES ............................... 17
       COMMENTARY ................................... 11  BUSINESS DIRECTORY ...................... 19  but necessary to ensure the best care for loved ones.

                                                                                                       Deborah Boerner Ein
                                             Pick up your copy of SNJ Today at       s we gather with family around   those roles and have her children care for
                                                various locations including:         the table next week, it’s a good   her; she did speak of being a burden from
                                              • ShopRite, 1255 Landis Ave.,  Atime to give thanks for the people   time to time.
                                                       Vineland                who brought us to adulthood, whether   We had Mom on hospice care—Angelic
                          STAFF              • ShopRite, 3600 E. Landis Ave.,   they be parents or guardians—and to   Health, in fact—for the last six weeks of
                                                                                                                   her life and Mom always had a smile on
                                                                               check on how we might care for them as
                                                       Vineland
                                               • ShopRite, 2102 N. 2nd St.,    they cared for us.                  her face to greet the nurses and aides. I
       DEBORAH BOERNER EIN, Editor                      Millville                For my part, I was blessed with a mom   have to think she was delighted that we
       CLARISSA TONEY, Production Manager      • Main Street Market, 140 S.    and dad who both lived well into their   were getting help after several years of
       MICKEY BRANDT, Contributor Emeritus          Main St., Millville        90s. In my family, it was an unwritten   caring for both her and Dad.
       KEN PUSTIZZI, SR., CEO                                                  code that the generation ahead of us, if   Much of the advice and scenarios in
       KEN PUSTIZZI, JR., President           • ShopRite, 1000 N. Pearl St.,   at all possible, would be cared for in the   Stephanie’s story ring true as to things we
       GIANFRANCO CASALINUOVO, COO                     Bridgeton               home, surrounded by the people and   did or did not do. For example, did we ask
       Advertising Executive:                • Bridgeton Family Diner, 825 N.   things that they loved.            Mom what she wanted for her services?
       PAMELA MORRIS, pmorris@snjtoday.com         Pearl St., Bridgeton          In this week’s cover story, “Hospice is   No, we did not but since she made deci-
                                              • Amish Market, 2 Cassidy Dr.,
         600 G St., Ste 1240, Millville, NJ 08332      Hopewell                All About Living,” Stephanie Farrell out-  sions along with us for Dad’s funeral we
           856-327-8800 • SNJToday.com       • SNJ Today, 600 G St., Millville  lines some of the steps that can be taken,   knew that she would choose the same.
            E-MAIL: info@SNJToday.com                                          perhaps over the holidays as brothers and   The funeral director asked if she wanted
                                                                               sisters are together, to meet the needs of   to choose for her own services at that
                                                                               parents right now—and to ask the hard   time; she declined, and we honored those
             Don’t wait for the mailman!                                       questions so that the future yields the   wishes.
                                                                               best possible outcome.
                                                                                                                      This week’s cover story also points out
                                                                                 We had two very different end-of-life   that many feel in hindsight that they did
                                                                               situations, with my dad failing physically   not call in hospice care soon enough. We
                                                                               along with some dementia for the last few   made that mistake the first time, not the
                                                                               years of his life. Mom, on the other hand,   second.
                                                                               was doing her word searches and watch-  I will say that everything stated in
                                                                               ing Jeopardy just days before her body   Stephanie Farrell’s story we found to
                                                                               gave out. Neither situation is easy—for   be true of Angelic Health. They never
                                                                               the loved one or the caregivers.    pushed anything on us but allowed us to
                                                                                 My sister, having called on hospice   choose what services we felt would best
                                                                               for Dad before his death in 2019, knew   suit our needs.
                                       ONLINE
                                       ONLINE                                  for Mom. The circumstances with Mom   where a caregiver asked her father’s doc-
                                                                                                                      I was reading something recently
                                                                               just what to do a year and a half later
                                                                                                                   tor how she would know that it was time
                                                                               were complicated by the pandemic, as far
                                                                               as visits from friends and family mem-  to set up hospice care for him. The doctor
                      • Easy • Accessible                                      bers were concerned. For much of that   answered: “Let love be your guide.”
                                                                               year and a half without Dad, she was lim-
                                                                                                                      I would add to that: If you’re asking
                  • From your computer                                         ited to masked visits along with air hugs   the question, it’s not too early to call a
                                                                                                                   hospice care company to help you assess
                                                                               and kisses—necessarily so, but really dif-
                      • From your phone                                        ficult.                             the circumstances and guide you to a
                                                                                                                   decision.
                                                                                 All her life, Mom was a caretaker, first
                                                                               helping with younger siblings (there were   Whatever hospice care agency you
       SUBSCRIBE TODAY!                                                        seven of them), then caring for her moth-  choose, my sister, brother, and I would
                                                                                                                   suggest to everyone that they go through
                                                                               er who lived with us for three decades
                                                                               after the death of my grandfather. It must   the learning curve before it’s actually
                           SNJToday.com                                        have been tough for Mom to reverse   needed. n
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